Men can also be…
As time evolves, so too must our definition of masculinity. Men should no longer be confined to the narrow expectations of being solely strong, emotionally stoic, and mature. These toxic portrayals of manhood should be long forgotten.
It’s high time we began shifting our narratives to embrace alternative portrayals of masculinity. We must broaden the spectrum of what it means to be a man, enabling them to unlock a world of possibilities, where they can freely explore and express the multifaceted aspects of their personalities.
Men too, can be sincere and nurturing, kind and empathetic, timid and shy, childlike and sweet, frail and delicate.
Over the past few years, I’ve begun to see more men openly talking about their feelings that are far from the stereotypical standard, and that should be appreciated — it’s time for this to be normalised.
Angelica Reyes, a volunteer at Calm Collective Asia, created a set of illustrations to shed light on the various movie characters that redefine and expand the boundaries of masculinity — showcasing alternative portrayals of modern masculinity and offering a fresh perspective on what men can be.
Men can also be like…
WAYMOND — KIND & EMPATHETIC
(Everything Everywhere All at Once)
Everything Everywhere All At Once (2022), dir. by Daniel Kwan & Daniel Scheinert
Waymond, a humble laundromat worker, embraces a unique philosophy in life that sets him apart. In a world that often feels harsh, he chooses to fight back in his own ways — with kindness and empathy. This made his character not only likeable but truly admirable. He explains “When I choose to see the good side of things, I’m not being naive. It is strategic and necessary. It’s how I’ve learned to survive through everything.” In the face of struggles, Waymond wields kindness and empathy not as a weakness, but as a powerful tool for survival.
NEWT — SINCERE & NURTURING
(Fantastic Beasts)
Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find Them (2016), dir. by David Yates
Newt is a wizard of uncommon depth — vulnerable, sincere, nurturing, sensitive and yet quietly confident. An unconventional hero whose passion lies in nurturing misunderstood magical creatures, offering them the attention they so desperately need. It’s his genuine sincerity that sets him apart, framed as one of his greatest attributes — he is unapologetically himself. He is opposed to any sort of violence. Newt’s version of masculinity challenges stereotypical gender norms, teaching us that these traits, often perceived as weaknesses in traditional views of masculinity, are vital. These qualities enable one to forge deep and meaningful connections. Newt’s approach teaches us that sensitivity and compassion are essential qualities for men, and empowers them to navigate life’s challenges with resilience.
LUCA — TIMID & SHY
(Luca)
Luca (2021), dir. by Enrico Casarosa
Luca, a shy, timid and imaginative 13-year-old sea monster, is fascinated by the small village of Portorosso. Despite his fears of the land, his curiosity propels him to explore it. Alberto, a free-spirited sea monster, introduces him to the surface world — guiding him through his fears and encouraging him to let go of his doubts and embrace the unknown. By the end, Luca undergoes a remarkable transformation, emerging with newfound bravery and confidence. This character shows that it’s entirely acceptable for men to be timid and shy while still growing and evolving. Men, too, can embrace these qualities of shyness and timidity, much like Luca.
CHARLIE — CHILDLIKE & SWEET
(The Perks of Being a Wallflower)
The Perks of Being a Wallflower (2012), dir. by Stephen Chbosky
Men, too, can embody traits of innocence exemplified by Charlie. Charlie, a quintessential wallflower, often feels like an outsider—even within his own family. His deep sensitivity and reflective nature shine through his letters written to an anonymous friend. This portrayal shows us that embracing vulnerability and tenderness is a deep resilience. Charlie’s character also highlights that being childlike and sweet is not only acceptable but crucial for achieving a more authentic sense of self. It encourages men to accept and embrace their emotional side, showing that true strength lies in being true to oneself.
HICCUP — FRAIL & DELICATE
(How to Train Your Dragon)
How to Train Your Dragon: The Hidden World (2019), dir. by Dean DeBlois
Hiccup is a frail, small, yet smart and clever Viking teenager. As the chief’s son, he is expected to be strong and heroic. However, he has no interest in being the chief himself one day. He is not inclined towards killing the dragons that plunder the village. His true character emerges through his compassionate act of helping an injured dragon named Toothless. Hiccup demonstrates that being gentle, and delicate are not only valid but can be profound virtues in their own right.
Men can be Waymond, Newt, Charlie, Luca, Hiccup, and many more…
We have become so accustomed to seeing men portrayed as intelligent, outspoken, financially stable and charismatic, that any deviation from this norm feels almost wrong. These characters are a refreshing departure from this trope, challenging conventional stereotypes and playing a critical role in dismantling toxic masculinity.